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The Happiness of Motherhood || The Joys of Motherhood – A Mother’s Love

 

I saw many women who did not want to have children and then terribly regretted it. And I don’t know a single one who gave birth to a child and regretted it at least once
— Oksana Onisimova —

 

The happiness of motherhood

As a rule, upon learning about pregnancy, women begin to concentrate on the problems and hardships associated with the birth of a child (especially for those readers who have already thought about abortion). They see many problems in front of them and do not see joy. Unfortunately, a whole generation of women has already been formed who do not understand what the happiness of motherhood is.

On the forums, women quite sincerely ask the following questions: “How much I have read about suffering during pregnancy, childbirth … etc., and my friends have told a lot. Many people complain that it is hard for them … I have such a simple question: is the child really worth it? Pain, damage to health, a long career break (I will not abandon the child to babysit), deprivation of all past habits? What is such a joy of motherhood that it is not a pity to lose it all? Sometimes it seems to me that my friends regret life without children. “

Television and the Internet popularly explain what a woman will lose when she becomes a mother: the opportunity to be free and enjoy life. Information about what motherhood gives, on the contrary, is extremely rare. But you can always look at the world differently. Some are focused on constraints, while others are focused on new opportunities.

Motherhood is an opportunity, having thrown out of life the “empty husk” and realizing that happiness lies not in new stilettos or fashionable parquet flooring, to realize what trifles most of us waste our lives on. And this does not mean that small, everyday joys will disappear altogether, they will remain, but joys of a different depth will be added to them. Thanks to the baby, you will have to learn how to manage your own time, living three lives instead of one. The mother cannot afford to waste time on nonsense, and the joys that still remain will be many times more valuable. Of all the hobbies, whatever they are – books, movies, communication with friends, she will learn to choose only worthwhile and really significant, make a choice, and fill her time only with valuable things.

Motherhood is a new way of looking at the world, allowing you to see through patterns and stereotypes, to see people – and not their clothes, success or status, and stop wasting time on idle chatter with empty people, devoting time to those who are really close, and letting go of those, on whom it is a pity to waste time and life. This is a whole world that opens up a lot of new things: girls with tattoos, fans of football teams, youth series, pink plush ponies … The mother’s world is becoming wider, deeper, and her ideas about reality are more holistic, despite the fact that not all the facts, those who enter her life may like her. Motherhood is the destruction of illusions. The child will never live up to expectations and this will make you realize how foolish it is to make plans. The kid will give a great ability to accept life in its momentary joys and frustrations,

Unfortunately, in our age, women have forgotten how to love without demanding something in return. Love for a child is unconditional, there is no selfishness in it, and it is such love that gives happiness, allowing one to forget about one’s own limitations. A mother loves her children, always forgiving and always wishing them well. In the most ordinary human being, his own mother, among other things, will always, without hesitation, see the qualities of perfection, will always believe in their presence, and thereby help them to open up, in this also finding happiness. Mother’s love is, in fact, an inner illuminating power to support another being in his desire to be and to come true. Not a single woman, bearing a child, can remain what she was before pregnancy.

Each child, developing in the physical and subtle body of the mother, necessarily influences them. And the mother does not protect her inner environment, she allows all these changes, accepting them. In the process of spiritual practice, our personality, our bodies are also transformed, but the ego always stands guard over their constancy, striving to maintain its previous form and not give up its positions. The expectant mother is completely calm about the fact that she herself becomes a completely different person under the influence of the direct influence of the one who came to become. Just as pain and fear are two sides of the same coin, love and wisdom are two inseparable hypostases of the same perfection.

By loving, a priori disinterestedly, unconditionally loving the child, the mother surpasses her limitations that emerge when raising a child. This love gives her patience and wisdom. striving to maintain the same shape and not give up their positions. The expectant mother is completely calm about the fact that she herself becomes a completely different person under the influence of the direct influence of the one who came to become. Just as pain and fear are two sides of the same coin, love and wisdom are two inseparable hypostases of the same perfection. By loving, a priori disinterestedly, unconditionally loving the child, the mother surpasses her limitations that emerge when raising a child. This love gives her patience and wisdom. striving to maintain the same shape and not give up their positions. The expectant mother is completely calm about the fact that she herself becomes a completely different person under the influence of the direct influence of the one who came to become.

Just as pain and fear are two sides of the same coin, love and wisdom are two inseparable hypostases of the same perfection. By loving, a priori disinterestedly, unconditionally loving the child, the mother surpasses her limitations that emerge when raising a child. This love gives her patience and wisdom. By unconditionally loving the child, the mother transcends the limitations that come up when raising the child. This love gives her patience and wisdom. By unconditionally loving the child, the mother transcends the limitations that come up when raising the child. This love gives her patience and wisdom.

Motherhood makes a woman strong. Protecting her baby from many circumstances of life, from temptations, temptations and falls, she can become an integral person, able to say “no” and “yes” in spite of circumstances and influences where she is dictated by the feeling of the need for the good of the child. So she becomes determined and courageous. She becomes steadfast, helping and supporting the child, cultivating in him faith in his own strengths and abilities. Developing with the child, she cultivates many new qualities. These qualities, maturing and developing in the mother, make her soul mature, that is, able to see things in a clear light, to distinguish between transient and essential values.

Every woman has a choice – to cling to her values, expectations and plans, illusions, or, having accepted the challenge of life, start learning, changing, growing. Motherhood is a treasure trove of opportunities, discoveries, treasures and lessons. It is also a great experience for your soul. An experience that is truly valuable, perhaps even priceless. There are no analogues of this transformation and cannot be. No personal growth, psychology and even “spiritual” development can replace it.

Motherhood is the best training for personal growth and the best spiritual practice for women, forcing them not only to “know” something, but also to apply it around the clock, and live as they write in books. Not easy, but worth it.

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