DEar practice, which allows a person to develop himself and the world around him, is, without exaggeration, the most important component of our harmonious life. We complain about the superficiality and spoiledness of children, their lack of interest in reading, their excessive passion for computer games and cartoons of dubious quality. Technological progress and an increase in the standard of living and comfort lead to the fact that children have an overabundance of toys, entertainment, and clothing. Their attention is so defocused on all these unimportant little things that the most important thing – emotional attachment and respect for parents – the kids simply do not have energy left. By placing children in such conditions of “comfort”, we ourselves contribute to the growth of their excessive selfishness and exactingness.
Today one of the most common phenomena in child psychiatry is child aggression. Unlike the aggression of an adult, this phenomenon is most often characterized by the fact that it does not have pronounced, simultaneously manifested, open causes. An adult falls into a state of irritability or anger, most often having at least a visual, concrete reason for this. Children, on the other hand, often express their hostility in unexpected situations, without obvious reasons. Nevertheless, the reason for this behavior is quite weighty – the lack of spiritual comfort, the lack of understanding that the child is loved, and not dismissed by numerous toys and entertainment. The best pastime in which your children will feel calm and kind to the world around them is with their parents. Lessons, which require the direct involvement of an adult in the process (drawing, modeling, construction, joint outdoor games and walks). After all, all these actions for the child will be colored by the joy of your time together.
Children do not have unloved games or toys, but there are insufficiently attentive parents. This has even been proven by psychological experiments. For example, a mother was asked to choose from a mountain of toys the one that enjoys the lowest popularity with the baby, with which he almost never plays or shows interest in her. For some time, the mother played with the child every day with this toy, and after a few days it attracted the most attention of the baby. He reached out to her on his own and initiated the game. This happened precisely because at the sight of this toy, the child (even if he was at an age when the psyche and nervous system were not completely formed) recalled those positive emotions that he received at the moments when his mother was nearby and gave him all her attention.
Now think, will such children and children, whose parents distract all their attention with gadgets, cartoons shown on TV around the clock, sweets, attractions and other entertainments, will have the same attitude to the world around them? In the end, these children will associate their parents only with a source of pleasure, since they are deprived of their sincere interest and attention. And how can they kindly perceive the world around them? It turns out that there is no peace of mind in their souls, but only an endless race for new purchased entertainment. As soon as these entertainments are unavailable for various reasons, the reaction “they don’t like me” is triggered. As a result, there is a complete rejection of the surrounding reality.
So it turns out that we often characterize the younger generation as more aggressive, mercantile, spoiled and cheeky. They say that today’s children have no spirituality at all. Of course, modern education and the values imposed on young people by the media are aimed at eradicating even the rudiments of this very spirituality. The one who has the spiritual will not buy much material, which means that he is an unprofitable consumer. However, we forget that the first school of life for a person who has come to this world is the family. The first people, thanks to whom the image of the whole society and the whole vast world is laid in the mind of a child, are parents. There is a wonderful and wise proverb: “Don’t try to bring up children, they will still be like you. Educate yourself. ” So instead of reading tons of books on child psychology,
The concept of “spirituality” exists in the cultures of all peoples and in all religions. From ancient times in Russia there was a moral principle “to live according to conscience and in harmony with nature.” In Yoga, spirituality is introduced and fixed at the very first stages of practice and represents ten ethical norms of behavior – Yama and Niyama (harmlessness, truthfulness, non-stealing, abstinence, etc.). In Christianity, these rules are expressed in the form of the ten commandments.
Thus, the entire human life is permeated with the subtlety and sublimity of the universal laws, according to which the entire universe exists and which must be respected and observed by all living beings. In the age of Kali-yuga, clouded human consciousness rarely remembers this. In order to remember the existence of higher and more powerful forces, a person usually needs to endure a severe shock, misfortune, loss. Only then do we understand that we are not the kings of nature, and very little is subject to us in this world. Namely – only we ourselves, and we have very little time to work on ourselves in this life. What practices can help a person to raise their spiritual level?
The practice of altruism
Perhaps this is the most important principle of the harmonious coexistence of the soul with the Universe and its development. Its meaning is to give to others more than we keep for ourselves. There is an old wise saying: “What I gave is yours, what I left behind is lost.” Indeed, we are given very little time on this planet. If we spend our life energy only on ourselves, all our efforts, our whole life will be wasted. Leaving this world, we will not take it with us. But we can use the same energy in order to launch a series of good and good deeds in the world around us. And then our effort will not be lost, because this chain will go further. Each person will make a little effort to maintain it, and it will get longer and stronger. The consequences of it will increase and benefit both the addressees of our efforts and ourselves. Just imagine how the whole planet will win then, in what kind of world our children will live!
A conscious decision to become parents is to some extent a manifestation of altruism. As the saying goes, “deciding to have a child means agreeing that from now on and forever your heart will run separately from you.” Yes, this may well be considered the first step towards altruism. After all, earlier the object of your care and responsibility was mainly yourself. Now a soul comes to your family, which will be forever connected with you. And at least for the first time this soul will need all your care, attention, strength, and most importantly and valuable – your patience. The modern generation of young people was raised by a certain system to be extremely infantile. Many of us have claims to our parents about how our childhood went, how we were raised, what we were taught. We consider ourselves much more intellectually developed, parental authority does not exist for us. That is why, only having gone through the path of raising children on our own, we can fully understand how much effort it cost our parents, show our egoism, how much was sacrificed for the sake of our carefree life in contentment. The basis of all altruism is patience. The highest achievement in human life is not only the constant maintenance of patience, but also the extension of it to all people around. After all, every living being either in the past was already your child, or will be in the future. How can you not be kind to him? The basis of all altruism is patience. The highest achievement in human life is not only the constant maintenance of patience, but also the extension of it to all people around. After all, every living being either in the past was already your child, or will be in the future. How can you not be kind to him? The basis of all altruism is patience. The highest achievement in human life is not only the constant maintenance of patience, but also the extension of it to all people around. After all, every living being either in the past was already your child, or will be in the future. How can you not be kind to him?
From birth, we are all characterized by unconscious selfishness not only in order to survive in this world (a baby cannot stand hunger and cold), but also in order to understand the rules of life in the world. The more conscious our age becomes, the less egoism should remain in us. We have already grown up, we are able to give up something in order to benefit our neighbor. This is what it means to be Human. If your child sees that your actions are as kind as possible and are aimed primarily at the development of other people, such behavior will become his ideal. Moreover, a child needs to demonstrate altruistic behavior from the first days of his life, since until a certain age (up to two or two and a half years), children do not perceive our moral teachings due to the peculiarities of the formation of the human psyche. But they very carefully notice all the nuances of our behavior, all actions and deeds. Due to the lack of life experience at this age, they have no concepts of “good” and “bad”. But for them there are concepts like mom and dad. And, of course, they do not understand whether you are doing good or bad. For them, everything that parents do is an attitude of good, correct, adult behavior. The great Soviet teacher V.A. Sukhomlinsky wrote:“When my children begin to live in a team, my first concern is that the biggest misfortune of each child is someone else’s misfortune, the greatest joy and consolation is the thought that he brought joy to another person . ” Accordingly, in order for your children to grow up worthy, you yourself need to live accordingly. His Holiness the XIV Dalai Lama once said: “If I have compassion to a certain extent, it is all thanks to the seed that my mother planted in my heart, and not at all religious practices. Of course, later Buddhist teaching greatly contributed to the growth of an altruistic mindset from this seed. But I got the grain from my mother. ” By giving, you will never lose anything.
Practices of spiritual self-improvement.
To maintain our own energy at the proper level in a modern consumer society, Yoga offers us a wide range of tools. All these techniques are very ancient means of developing oneself and the world around. In terms of spiritual self-improvement, the most effective for understanding our inner world are the practices of pranayama, mantrayana and concentration of the mind (meditation), reading spiritual scriptures… These techniques help not only accumulate energy, but also, most importantly, change the quality of the energy that is formed in the subtle channels of a person as a result of his daily activities. Living in this world, we are constantly exchanging energy with the people who surround us. Accordingly, the lifestyle, worldview and dependencies of these people can enter our consciousness. And precisely in order to separate one’s own view of the world from someone else’s and to improve the quality of one’s own energy, it is necessary to engage in spiritual practices. This is the so-called “energy hygiene”. The positive effect of constantly maintaining your soul in purity, morality and virtue will necessarily spread to the external environment, that is, to our environment. After all, the most important principle of working on oneself sounds like this: “Change yourself – the world around you will change.”
Why is it so important to start doing Yoga before inviting the soul of a child into your family? Because only a reflection of our inner world can be born to us. If a man and a woman live in defilements, unconsciously, then a soul at the same level of development will be embodied in their family. Will such a family be happy? There is a very high probability that parents with a child will pull each other lower and lower, to the degradation of consciousness, which is so promoted today by the media and the images installed in our consciousness. However, if future parents devote several years to the development of such qualities as sanity, good nature, goodness, altruism, a soul of the corresponding level will come to them. After all, beings from higher, more perfect worlds have the opportunity to choose which family to incarnate into.
As the Scriptures tell, when Buddha Shakyamuni, staying on the planet Tushita, heard the request of living beings to descend into our world to give the Teaching, he chose for his birth the representatives of the great Solar Shakya clan – King Shuddhodana and his wife, Queen Maha Maya. Also, enlightened souls have the opportunity to choose which parents to be born to in order to continue their path of development. Such a soul will give parents much less anxiety, trouble and sorrow than if it was born to modern consumers. After all, selfishness is the most serious spiritual disease. If everyone (parent and child) pulls the blanket over themselves, there will be constant strife, aggression, lack of kindness, care and understanding in the family. Between the needs of others and his own needs, the child will choose the concept “for himself”,
The well-known researcher of the energy and human field S. N. Lazarev writes in his book Diagnostics of Karma: “ Then I treated patients directly and did not expect that after a while I would be able to see the souls of future children, diagnose and treat them. I did not know yet that in our field there are, as it were, matrices of dwellings of the souls of future children and they can be polluted, that is, the release of “dirt” into the future can stain the souls of descendants up to the 3rd, 7th, 13th tribes, and so on. … Now, in order for a harmonious child to be born, parents need to cleanse their souls. Or after his birth they will be cleansed through sickness and misfortune . ” Lazarev also notes that not only the karmic pollution of the parents affects the quality of life of the child, but also how the child will live will affect the purity of the karma of his parents.
It is Yoga that allows you to change karma not through suffering and pain in everyday life, but through experiencing austerities in practice. Asceticism is called voluntary self-restraint in pleasures and entertainment, the gradual experience of discomfort in the body and mind during the practice of asanas, pranayama, meditation. Thus, by devoting several years to your own development, you will be able to become the parents of a child with higher spiritual qualities than you could if you were not exerting efforts to yourself and were a “normal consumer.” Such a soul will allow you to develop further and will itself evolve thanks to your efforts, it will have a so-called “high start” already at birth. The life of such a child will be much more effective both for him and his family and for the entire planet.
Hatha yoga. In the classic work of the 15th century “Hatha yoga pradipika”, compiled by Swatmarama, the concept of “hatha yoga”, in addition to pranayama, which was mentioned above, includes 2 more aspects: shatkarmas and asanas. Let’s consider each of these concepts, as well as the effects they have on humans.
Shatkarmas are a system of certain cleansing techniques for the body. For thousands of years, these practices have allowed a person to keep their body healthy and clean. All newfangled “cleansing” of internal organs are just based on the principles of the human body, which were addressed by the sages of the past. At all times, people understood that a living human body periodically needs “cleaning”, that is, body hygiene should be not only external, but also internal. These practices allow you to remove impurities and toxins from important organs such as the stomach, intestines, liver, respiratory tract, organs of vision, etc., to heal and rejuvenate the whole body. They are described in detail in the ancient texts on Yoga, which are now available for acquaintance: “Hatha Yoga Pradipika”, “Gheranta Samhita”. Besides, today there are many commentaries on these practices by 20th and 21st century authors in the form of books or numerous articles on the Internet. However, it is strongly discouraged to master the practice of cleansing only from written sources. It is more correct and adequate to do this under the guidance of a competent person with the necessary experience. And only after the correct mastering of this or that technique can you continue to practice it from time to time on your own.
During the preparation of both partners for conception, shatkarmas are a healthy alternative to various synthetic vitamins or dietary supplements to maintain the immunity and health of women and men as a whole. However, it must be remembered that this system is mainly aimed at preventing diseases and ailments. If a person already has health problems, the use of shatkarmas will be limited by a number of contraindications, which must be familiarized with before practicing any of these cleansing actions.
It would seem that the shatkarma system as the prevention of various diseases of the body, although it allows us to do without medicines and the intervention of modern medicine, is nevertheless aimed at working purely with the physical body and has nothing to do with spiritual development. However, this is not at all the case. Here we need to get acquainted with such a concept as apana-vayu. The human body consists of energies of different quality and properties, contained in different parts of the body. Apana-vayu is the heaviest and basest energy that puts us down too much and does not allow consciousness to grow and rise up. This vayu (energy) is associated with the reproductive and excretory systems of the body and, accordingly, is always directed downward. Its location in the body is from the navel to the feet. It is with this energy that we work through various Yoga practices at different levels to raise our energy and our spiritual qualities higher. With subtle practices, we resist the force of gravity that all the time strives to lower our consciousness to the level of satisfying primary needs and receiving primitive pleasures like delicious food or regular copulation. Many shatkarmas influence the flow of this energy, purify this area. As a result, it becomes easier for the practitioner to achieve any subtle results by changing the currents of energy and the ratio of their proportions in the body. If a person has any addictions or addictions (for example, bad habits), shatkarmas can tangibly change the situation in a positive direction. Also, these techniques contribute to the establishment of the work of many body systems,
The effect of asanas is similar to the effect of shatkarma – it is a study and a qualitative change in the body, not only at the physical, but also at the energy level. However, if in shatkarmas we are required to perform from time to time a very specific set of actions, which in a specific way affects the body, then with asanas everything is more complicated. The fact is that the systematic exertion of efforts to perform exercises on the mat is almost always controlled exclusively by our head. No biological processes, as in the case of the use of shatkarmas, will happen by themselves. Thus, regularly performing asanas for 1-2 hours, we develop what is called tapas in Yoga, and in the West (in a more simplified version) – willpower. We consciously endure some discomfort (austerities) and purify ourselves energetically through work with the body. Here we also often work with apana-vayu. It is not for nothing that the most difficult positions for beginners to master are usually poses aimed at working out the flexibility of the ligaments and joints of the legs. It is apana-vayu that enslaves this area in our body.
So why is it important for both partners to regularly practice asanas for a more or less long period before conceiving a child? The voluntary austerities that we undergo in the classroom and the tapas that are generated as a result are an effective and accessible tool for most people to work with karmic impurities. Unfortunately, the rhythm of life in which we are forced to live does not mean contentment and peace of mind. The system that surrounds us often deliberately provokes us to the coarsest drain of energy. First of all, these states include such negative manifestations of the muladhara chakra (the very first, root chakra), such as anger, irritability, anger, envy, aggression. It is such a frequent manifestation of these states, caused by any trifle from our daily life in megacities, provokes the appearance of spots of black energy in our aura – karmic pollution. We will certainly have to work out these pollution in the future through our own health and well-being, as well as affect the well-being of our descendants. S.N. Lazarev writes that in modern Western society the problem of infertility is so sharp, in particular, due to the fact that around potential future parents who live a normal social life with all its rules and concepts and are not engaged in self-development black energy spots. As a result, the child’s soul cannot break through these barriers. Only souls from the same dark worlds can interact with such energies. If a couple incarnates just such a soul, the life of this family is going to be really hard and dramatic. Therefore, it will be much more benign and adequate to apply efforts to oneself and change one’s own energy and karma.
Most of us find it very difficult to find the motivation or strength to practice Yoga in our daily life. Our cunning mind comes up with many different excuses in order to move the practice to tomorrow. However, as the great yogi Milarepa said, “If you put off your practice until tomorrow, you may suddenly find that life has slipped away.” In order to find and maintain this very motivation, we lack the experience of active immersion in practice. This is where the retreat helps.
A retreat is a temporary solitude of a person, a departure from the usual life in society and the devotion of most of the time to various practices of self-improvement. It is best to choose for such an event some place remote from the city, in nature. For beginners, a group retreat is a great option. This is a union with like-minded people for a certain time and joint implementation of the practices of hatha yoga, pranayama, various types of concentration, mantropenia, etc. Why will this option be effective at the first stages of development? Usually it is very difficult for us to force ourselves to do something on our own, and if it still succeeds, the threshold of our patience in practice turns out to be underestimated. As soon as the thought comes: “That’s it, I can’t take it anymore,” we retreat. However, each of those who practice in a group transcend his own limits, seeing other participants continue to push themselves. Thus, where our mind would have said long ago, “Enough for today,” we can actually go much further than our own ideas. We can achieve a much more meaningful result. Like-minded people always motivate each other to overcome their own limitations.
For experienced practitioners, an individual retreat may also be suitable. In order to independently force yourself to follow the planned practice program every day, you need a really large supply of tapas. The gratitude of people whose lives have improved qualitatively thanks to your personal example and dedication of energy for the good and development of the world around are even more needed.
It is usually very difficult for both our mind and our ego, devoid of everyday comfort and pleasure, to endure going through a retreat. But this is precisely the best result of such events. Retreats make us grow above ourselves, challenge our selfishness. Retreats show that we can achieve much more than we used to think if we put in the effort. In addition, such a concentration of self-development practices for a certain period of time (3 days, 10 days, a month, etc.) significantly increases results, burns negative karma, inspires further activities, improves the quality of life for you and your loved ones. Consequently, the chance to attract a bright soul to your family increases, which also wants to develop among like-minded people.
The arrival in the family of a child who is attuned with the parents to the same worldview and tasks is one of the highest forms of good. Such a child will allow you to develop, and will not create problems, taking energy and strength. And also he himself will be provided with an excellent example to follow and a start for his own spiritual development.
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Inviting the soul to the family.
Few people know or think about the fact that now there is great competition between souls from the higher worlds for the right to be born in this world for self-improvement. Accordingly, such souls are looking for a suitable family. Incarnation in such a family will allow them to maximize the realization of the task for which they come into this world – self-development and service. Therefore, when you are ready to invite such a soul, you also need to do this as consciously and respectfully as possible.
It is very valuable to have the opportunity to visit special places of power and raise in them an appeal to the higher spheres of existence, to express your invitation for the soul that is karmically connected with you. The best options are places saturated with the especially powerful feminine energy of great mothers. For example, Lumbini (Nepal), where Queen Maha Maya painlessly gave birth to the Great Teacher Buddha Shakyamuni in a park under a large tree. Legends say that the gods themselves descended from heaven and carried the queen and her son to the sacred lake Manasarovar (Tibet) to wash the body of Buddha. This lake also has a special energy; it is no coincidence that it is called a lake with living water. It is believed that a woman who touches its magical waters will be able to bring an extremely high soul into this world – a bodhisattva. In addition, Manasarovar is the abode of Parvati,
You can also use various spiritual practices (meditations, mantras) to express an invitation to the soul to come into your family. Of course, the birth of children is karmically conditioned, so this event will happen not earlier and not later than the due time. However, working on themselves, parents work with their own karma and defilements, making it easier for the soul, which is destined to come to them.
“In October 2015, my husband and I took part in the” Journey to the Places of Buddha “with the OUM.RU club. It is known that the Noble One in the world recommended that the followers of his Teachings visit 4 places associated with the main milestones of his Path on this planet: the place of his birth (Lumbini), the place of his Enlightenment (Bodhgaya), the place of the first turning of the Wheel of Dharma (Sarnath), the place of departure to parinirvana (Kushinagar). It was in Lumbini, which today is already the territory of Nepal, in a park under a large spreading tree that Queen Maha Maya brought Prince Siddhartha into this world. This tree is revered by all locals and pilgrims from different countries. In this place of Power, I invited a soul into our family, which would like to be embodied in the world of people for its own development and the development of the surrounding world. Apparently, thanks to the perfect pilgrimage and the power of this place, filled with the Universal maternal energy, karmic connections were built quite quickly.
Alexandra Shtukaturova, yoga teacher, Leonid’s mother.
“About a year before conception, my husband and I got acquainted with the lectures of teachers Oum.ru and Trekhlebov A. V., after which we switched to vegetarianism and began to practice yoga. We went on a pilgrimage tour, attended a seminar by Olga Verba, after which it became clear where and how we would give birth. And after I finished Olga Verba’s course on perinatal yoga, our intentions only grew stronger. There was a strong faith with my own strength, in the help of a midwife and divine powers. “
Yulia Trofimovich, teacher of perinatal yoga and aqua yoga, mother of Daryana.
“Not so long ago I gained an incredibly important experience – the experience of bringing a new soul into this world! When I got pregnant, it turned out that I unknowingly began to prepare for this event several years before it occurred. It is interesting that from the moment I wanted to become a mother, and to be honest, a grandmother of a large number of grandchildren, yoga and spiritual development in general began to appear in my life. And when pregnancy began, it became clear why many competent people believe that the key to a successful pregnancy and childbirth is the preparation of the body for conception, that is, long before the pregnancy itself. While doing yoga, I regularly did various purification procedures: shatkarmas and kriyas, for example netti, shankhaprakshalana, kunjala, nauli, agnisara kriya, starving, observing brahmacharya. In addition, she practiced asanas, went to retreats, I tried to spend as much time as possible in clean, energetically strong places. All this helped to deal with oneself, bring the body into a clean state and, of course, it is easy to give birth. “
Varvara Gagarina, yoga teacher, mother of Yuri.