Carrying a child, we do not teach him to hand, but gradually wean him from the familiar close proximity of the mother that has become in nine months
It was already mentioned in the chapter on breastfeeding that a newborn is completely dependent and needs to meet several basic needs. They are due to the physiological characteristics of the infant. In particular, he has highly developed skin sensitivity. At the same time, the skin is actively stimulated during breastfeeding, sleeping together and carrying it on the hands.
Indeed, the child quickly calms down in the mother’s arms. It is in order for the baby to feel the safety of this world, to get rid of the stress of childbirth and to kiss the mother’s breast for the first time, it is very important to create the so-called skin-to-skin contact. To do this, it is necessary in the first hours after childbirth to put the newborn on the mother’s bare skin. The surprising effect of this contact is explained by the fact that the child, lying on the stomach or breast of the mother, feels her warmth, smell and hears the heartbeat to which he was used to during nine months in the womb.
Going deeper into this topic further, for nursing premature and / or low birthweight babies, doctors proposed the “kangaroo method”, when the child is in contact with the mother “skin to skin” almost around the clock. In this case, the mother is the biological stimulator of the child to life – among other things, the rhythmic raising and lowering of the mother’s breast during breathing encourages the baby to breathe.
Just think, only the physical closeness of the mother and the child (even the grown-up one) can help with the refusal of the baby from breast, transfer from artificial to breastfeeding and to return lactation. This fact is based on the “nest method”, in which the child is constantly only with the mother (in his arms, in a sling). This, as it were, “zeroes out” the current situation and returns the mother-child couple to the state “immediately after childbirth,” which helps to establish the initial instinctive processes and solve the above problems.
In addition, more and more modern scientific studies only rediscover simple natural truths and confirm the importance of physical contact between mother and baby for the full development of his nervous, endocrine and immune systems.
In one of the scientific works, it was revealed that children who were carried in their arms not only in response to crying, but also for an additional 2 hours a day, cried 2 times less. Thus, the term “anticipatory carrying” was formulated, which defines that additional holding of the child in the arms satisfies the needs of the baby with a margin and reduces his anxiety in the future.
The following positions are considered the most suitable for carrying children. Vertical (the baby’s body is placed symmetrically vertically) includes the following options: from birth – “belly to belly” and on the half-hip; from 3-4 months – on the thigh. With one hand, the parent holds the top of the back and presses it to his chest, and the other supports the hips (the child does not sit!) So that the knees are higher than the pelvis, spread and brought to the tummy (“frog pose”). In this position, the pelvis is squashed, the tailbone is tucked in, and the back is relaxed and rounded.
The horizontal position (“cradle”) is often used from birth, as it is convenient to breastfeed in it. The child’s body is placed half-side on the parent’s forearm so that the neck is in the bend of the elbow and diagonally (the upper point is the head, the lower one is the pelvis). At the same time, it is important to ensure that the child’s breathing is not hampered – the head should be tilted back a little, and 1-2 fingers could fit between the baby’s chin and chest. The knees are also bent in this position and are located above the pelvis.
The listed positions are comfortable and physiological for the child. They can be used both while the baby is awake and during sleep. However, the counterbalance to the undeniable benefits of carrying children is the physical exertion on the hands, especially when the baby is growing up. In this case, a physiological carrying (sling), which is a piece of tissue that fixes the child’s posture in the arms, but frees the arms at the same time, can provide tangible help.
The topic of slings is becoming more and more popular every year, but this is not a newfangled notion, but a return to our roots. In the history of almost all cultures, the presence of various options for carriers for children has been revealed. This is understandable: there were many children in families, and parents needed free hands, as they had to work to ensure their existence. Carrying children on oneself in fabric was also developed in our country. This is indicated, in particular, by the expression “bring a child in a hem”. The mother fixed the lower edge of the hem around her neck in a special way and carried the baby in the resulting “pocket”.
Now, depending on the design, different types of slings are distinguished: a sling with rings, a sling scarf, a may sling and a sling backpack (or ergo backpack). In addition, these carriers differ in the acceptable age of the beginning of wearing, which is due to the skills of the child at a certain stage of development, for example, whether he holds his head or is already sitting confidently. Also, carriers differ in a set of positions in which a baby can be placed in them. There is a lot of information about the features of slings and mastering the skills of winding. In addition, the consultation of a sling consultant and special literature will help to understand the topic under discussion.
“Slings are very, very convenient! In a sling with rings it is convenient to carry in the “cradle” position for up to 4 months, it can be fed anywhere, the baby sleeps in it and is in close contact with the mother all the time. In a normal sling in an upright position, it is convenient to carry when the baby grows up a little. And when you learn to sit and hold the back, you can put it in an ergo-backpack (but not in a “kangaroo”, since the position of the legs should be, like a frog, the letter M, when the knees are slightly higher than the butt). “
Natalia Khodyreva, programmer, Anna’s mother.
“For the birth of my baby, I was presented with a sling on rings made of cotton fabric. I used it mainly at home when it was necessary to rock the child to sleep. The baby sling at home was very useful because the child felt just as good and comfortable even on his dad as he did on his mother. “
Anna Solovey, musical director of the kindergarten, mother of Nadezhda.