Chapter 12: The first minutes of a child’s life, Umbilical cord, Early attachment to the breast, Joint stay of mother and child
here you have met your long-awaited baby. With someone without whom from now on you will not think of yourself as a person. With your main karmic Teacher.
The birth process is not yet complete, the placenta has yet to be delivered. However, the most important thing has already happened – your child is living his first minutes in this world. How to meet it correctly, how to make you feel the benevolence and safety of the surrounding space?
In natural childbirth, there are several fundamental points that help to establish a harmonious connection between the child and the mother, with the family in which he came, and for many years determining his relationship with the world. What every woman in labor needs to know? What she, provided that she is informed, can do for her baby in the first seconds of his life, not only in home childbirth, but also in any maternity hospital and in almost any course of childbirth (with the exception of a difficult situation when a woman undergoes a cesarean section under general anesthesia )?
At least 95% of the readers of this book (people over 20-25 years old) were born in a typical Soviet maternity hospital. Most likely, obstetrics were not carried out there by the most gentle methods. We have already talked about the inconvenience of giving birth in a gynecological chair for the sole reason that it is more convenient for a doctor or obstetrician to accept a baby in this way. However, concern for the convenience of the maternity hospital staff, ensuring the speed and simplicity of delivering and handling the woman in labor, extended (and in some institutions, unfortunately, still extends) much further. No matter how absurd it may be, but for some reason, in the first seconds after birth, everything was done to separate the child from the mother, with whom he was closely connected for all nine months. Obvious such actions are: cutting the umbilical cord that has not yet pulsed,
Umbilical cord – It used to be customary to cut the umbilical cord immediately after the baby was born. One quick motion with scissors, and the newborn is already slapped on the buttocks in order to extract a cry from him. Then they carry to wash, measure height and weight. At this time, mom is invited to just relax and be glad that the most difficult thing is over. However, what joy can be more powerful and important for a mother at this moment than picking up her baby, pressing him to her chest and looking at him for a long, long time, getting to know him, admiring him? Besides, why can’t you cut the umbilical cord right away? Why is it necessary to give it a pulse?
The umbilical cord connects the baby to the placenta. Through it, during its development in the womb, the baby receives all the necessary nutrients, thanks to which it grows and develops. If we look at the biomechanics of childbirth, we will once again be amazed at how amazing Nature’s design is. Man is the only mammal that is born deeply premature (in a sense). He cannot immediately stand on his own feet and move to follow the herd or flock like animals. By the time of birth in a human cub, only the most vital systems are formed in order to exist in the mother’s arms in the near future, warm and under protection.
Nevertheless, even in order for a baby to be born in such a “under-formed” state, a subtle mechanism of childbirth has been created. In order for the head, being the largest part of the body, to pass through the mother’s pelvic ring, a number of complex actions are performed. The bones of the cranial vault are on top of each other, the baby makes a series of movements to bend the head, turn it around its axis by 90 degrees, extend it, make special movements with the shoulders to help oneself move, etc. One of the most important things is as follows : in order to pass as safely as possible through the birth canal of the mother, the baby through the umbilical cord pumps out a third (!) of its blood volume into the placenta. Once he is born, he must take her back into his vessels. By instantly cutting the umbilical cord, illiterate doctors deprive him of this opportunity. Obviously that for such a crumb, a third of the blood volume is a lot. A child needs it for healthy, high-quality adaptation to the world that has just accepted him. And how does the world accept it in this case? Too aggressive. The baby develops a reciprocal subconscious aggression and bitter resentment against the mother, who did not protect him from this rudeness.
In addition, while the umbilical cord is pulsing, the baby continues to receive oxygen from the mother’s blood. His own lungs are gently straightened, and not injured by the sharp pain of the first breath and do not cause a cry of suffering. The need for a loud crying baby at birth is a myth that has developed in the hospital practice of the “birth conveyor”. A gentle natural birth is precisely what ensures a calm behavior of the newborn.
There is a tradition of the so-called “lotus birth”, when the umbilical cord is not cut at all, but wait until it dries up and falls off. The placenta is stored next to the newborn during this entire period. This trend has its supporters. They believe that you should not even cross the pulsed umbilical cord, but you need to wait until it disconnects itself.
Only one thing can be said for sure: cutting off the unpulsed umbilical cord is acceptable only in the most extreme cases. Only one indication for instantaneous cutting of the umbilical cord is absolute. This is a critical condition of the mother or baby, which requires urgent medical attention. There is also another indication that can be called relative – the differences in the Rh factors of the blood between the mother and the child (most often, when the mother has Rh negative blood, and the child has Rh positive). But in this case, it is quite possible to give the umbilical cord a pulse. It is very important to rely on and trust an experienced midwife. As a rule, in natural childbirth and in this situation, the umbilical cord is not crossed immediately.
Today, even entering a regular free maternity hospital in a stream, you can ask a doctor or obstetrician to give the umbilical cord a pulse. You can touch it and, after making sure that the process is complete, allow it to be cut. Ideally, the father should cross the umbilical cord. From an energetic point of view, the female energy, in which the child stayed throughout the pregnancy, is balanced by the male energy at the moment the father crosses the umbilical cord. This is why partner childbirth is so important, which we will discuss in detail in the next chapter. If, for some reason, the child’s father is not present at the birth, you can contact a close male relative. If the midwife nevertheless cuts the umbilical cord, it is advisable that she herself is already out of childbearing age. Of course, these energetic moments cannot always be observed, however, if such an opportunity exists, it is worth making an effort to implement them. When cutting the umbilical cord, it is necessary to pronounce your wishes to the child, this will serve as an energy support and amulet for him.
Early attachment to the breast and staying together
Early attachment to the breast and staying together – As soon as the baby is born and is still on the umbilical cord, the first action should be to transfer it to the mother’s chest. This action is designed to soften as much as possible his exit from the comfort of the mother’s womb. It is believed that while in the womb, the child is in constant bliss (nirvana): his body is nourished, waste is removed, and there is also a constant connection with the Divine through the soft fontanelle. When a baby, who has left his comfort zone and has done a tremendous job in childbirth, is applied to the mother’s breast, he can again experience the familiar soothing sensations. He feels the mother’s warmth, hears her voice and the beating of his heart, to the rhythm of which he is so accustomed, makes the first awkward sucking movements, recreating through the chest that connection with the mother, which will soon disappear when the umbilical cord is crossed. Not by chance,
For the woman herself, the moment of putting the baby to the breast immediately after his birth is also extremely important and significant. It is here that her initiation as a mother ends. At the same time, oxytocin in the blood reaches its peak. Two very important processes are stimulated: the secretion of colostrum, which contains all the necessary substances for the nutrition and development of the newborn’s immunity in the first days of life, and the contraction of the uterus, which naturally helps the placenta to quickly separate, and also prevents the formation of any clots in the uterus. The presence of clots in the uterus a few days after birth is often the reason for surgery such as vacuum cleaning of the uterus. This operation is performed under general anesthesia, significantly undermines the strength of the woman after childbirth and, therefore, her ability to care for the baby.
The mechanism of reuniting mother and child outside immediately after childbirth is laid down by nature itself and perfected by entire generations of our ancestors. Previously, a woman who gave birth did not receive a baby immediately only for one reason: one of them (a woman or a baby) died during childbirth. The genetic memory of this is very strong both in us and in our children. Therefore, weaning from the mother in the first seconds of life invisibly signals the baby about great suffering – his mother is not and will not be. It is extremely difficult for the human subconscious to fully recover from the consequences of such primary stress.
This first skin-to-skin contact is the foundation for successful breastfeeding. Research experience shows that a baby who is in skin contact with his mother immediately after giving birth (at least an hour) most often takes the breast independently and correctly. So he can suck out a sufficient amount of milk for a short time, eat up and gain weight well. Those newborns who fail to attach correctly, stay at the breast longer, trying to get enough. However, due to prolonged improper sucking, the mother may experience breast problems: discomfort and pain in the nipples, lactostasis (milk stagnation), purulent mastitis. This, of course, significantly shortens the lactation period and brings the mother extremely negative emotions from feeding.
In addition, a baby without diapers on her mother’s breast feels safe. His body temperature quickly normalizes and stabilizes. The most important thing is that the child’s body in this case is populated by the mother’s microflora, which will help him to exist without allergies and other diseases where the family lives. If the baby is taken away and taken away in a plastic incubator to another department, his skin and intestines are often colonized by bacteria, different from those that live on the mother’s body.
There are numerous studies confirming that premature babies (even weighing 1200 g) or sickly children recuperate much faster and more efficiently, breathe better and more stable, staying not in a cold plastic incubator, but being on their mother, nourished with the warmth of her body and peace of mind from closeness with her. Moreover, the need for assistance (for example, oxygen therapy or intravenous infusions) for such newborns in the vast majority does not prevent skin-to-skin contact.
As a result, a baby who remains in close contact with his mother both immediately after childbirth and later (joint stay in the hospital, joint sleep at home) will be much more cheerful and healthier, as he:
There is practically no reason why any newborn (full-term or premature, at home or in a maternity hospital, with vaginal birth or forced caesarean section) cannot be attached to the mother’s breast for an hour or more after birth. The only exceptions are the most acute conditions of the mother or baby (for example, respiratory distress syndrome in a child).
So, proceeding from all the situations analyzed above, we can deduce the definition of natural childbirth, which a woman should strive for, because this is inherent in her by nature itself.
Thus, not only home childbirth can be natural, but also childbirth in the hospital (on a paid or free basis). In order to live your childbirth correctly in the maternity hospital, it is necessary, first, to tune oneself to accept all the sensations in childbirth, constantly keep in touch with the child and try to help him to be born as much as possible. Secondly, during uncomplicated childbirth, try to come to the hospital by the second period of labor (cervical dilatation about 5 cm) in order to minimize the risk of administration of stimulating drugs. Third, develop a very clear position on the introduction of stimulants or painkillers. In order to strengthen your confidence in your own strength, you need to attend preparatory courses for childbirth, communicate with women who have already experienced natural childbirth, work on your doubts and fears,
It is very positive if you have the opportunity to contact a competent professional midwife with extensive experience in natural childbirth. However, even if you do not have your own midwife, and you go into the hands of the hospital staff, try to practice partner labor. Why is it important?